May 10, 2021

How To Survive Military Life as a Significant Other

Salt Lake City, UT, USA


Relationships are based on four principles: respect, understanding, acceptance, and appreciation. ~Mahatma Gandhi

When you and your significant other make the decision to join the military there is a lot of behind the scene decisions that others looking from the outside in aren't aware of. Most people think of the military as easy, the president is in charge of you, you make a lot of money, lots of deployments, marrying young, multiple kids, and PCSing to the most amazing destinations. While some of these things might be true, there is a lot more to unpack. So today's blog post is about how to survive military life as a MILSO. 

Before we became an official military family I got to live the lifestyle through my mom. My dad went through multiple deployments and I was lucky enough to live close to my mom during those times and get to drop everything and be there for her when needed. Deployments teach spouses to be independent. To be strong, to learn things they never knew they would need to, to be smart with money, and to really be okay with being "by yourself" for multiple months out of the year. My husband went to basic and tech school while I was pregnant and just barely made it before our baby was born so I've lived through the experiences I'm sharing today. 

How To Survive Military Life as a Significant Other

1. Learn the acronyms

Aka all the "military lingo" If there is one funny thing I have learned from this military life is that Military officials love using acronyms for literally EVERYTHING. Each branch has its own specific abbreviation that you will have to learn. For us, the Air Force acronyms were what we needed to learn (Such as AFB "Air Force Base") There are also abbreviations that all branches use which is what I'm going to list down below:

MILSO: Military Significant Other
PCS: Permanent Change of Station
BAH: Basic Allowance for Housing
ASVAB: Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery
BAS: Basic Allowance for Subsistence
DITY: Do-it-yourself (move)
DEERS: Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System
DFAS: Defense Finance and Accounting Service
BX & PX: Base Exchange & Post Exchange (tax-free stores inside the military base)

For more acronyms, you can go to the military benefits website for a huge list. Knowing these abbreviations will help you communicate with different departments within your military branch and commanders and such (especially if your significant other is deployed). 

2. Find yourself a new hobby

When it comes to being a MILSO, as we previously explained, life can get a little lonely. Your spouse might be deployed for 90 days to a couple of years at a time. Or it could just be the long hours that your spouse is working at their base and you only really get to spend quality time with them during the weekend. Finding something that you are passionate about is going to keep you sane. Some people have always been "creative" since they were born. While others have to really dig deep and see what hobbies they could try and be passionate about. Me for example, I enjoy baking, blogging, thrifting, organizing, crafting, and doing research ( I know that this is a random hobby but I truly enjoy researching different topics my favorite being: Nutrition)

So next time your spouse is gone for a little while finding something that you have been wanting to try and giving it a go should be on top of your list! Here are a few ideas for you to add to your list: 

  • Blogging/Youtuber (so many possibilities here)
  • Social Media Influencer (same for this one, you can be a fashion or fitness influencer)
  • Crocheting
  • Learn how to play an instrument
  • Start an Etsy Store
  • Deep Clean your entire home and sell things on eBay
  • Learn how to cook
  • Learn how to bake
  • Learn a new language
  • Learn how to dance
  • Learn how to play a sport
  • Go on a thrifting adventure
  • Take a class on Skillshare
  • Learn a new workout routine
  • Take a photography class
  • Make a list of books to read for the year and complete it
  • Start a small business from your home
  • Explore your town 

Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation. ~Kahil Gibran

3. Keep a Journal

A journal is a place to clear your mind. To write down what’s clouding your thoughts and keeping you up at night. To help with conflict resolution and to give you solutions. It also helps with memories for years to come. There has been plenty of research on how journaling helps those with anxiety and depression. It helps people write down things that they might not want to say or someone face to face. One study specifically mentioned how older adults with ongoing medical conditions and anxiety found that journaling helped to decrease their mental stress load and increase their overall well-being. Just like one of my favorite songs, a journal is thinking aloud. It makes you more self-aware. It helps to fight your inner demons. To face your fears! (taken from my blog post on why you should keep a journal in 2021).

Keeping a journal while your significant other is also a great idea to look back at how you were feeling while they were gone and what memories you might have made. 

4. Make Traditions

Keeping traditions is one of our favorite things to do as a military family! There are so many fun ideas on Pinterest that you can find and create your own version for your family. Here in the Bertelli household, we love to spend time at home, making food, playing board games, watching movies, or going for adventures in our town. Here is a list of ideas for traditions:

  • Create a "bucket list" and complete it as a family
  • take a picture as a family in every new location you PCS to then save it as a digital scrapbook
  • buy a few of your favorite board games and have a game night with treats every week (or however many times a month you would like)
  • volunteer for a great cause as a family
  • create holiday traditions, whether it be for Christmas, Halloween, or the 4th of July, create some fun traditions that go with those holidays. 

5. Family Support

Having family there for you during the most difficult times of your deployment will make such a difference! There a few memories that come to mind when it comes to my family. My dad was deployed one year and my mom called me late a night saying that she was not feeling good and that I need to take her to the doctors. I dropped everything and drove 45 minutes to her house to help her out... My mama has always been there for me throughout the many stages of my life so I have to be there for her as much as I can. The same goes for when I was pregnant last year and my husband was gone for tech school. I had to get IVs quite often and luckily my brother-in-law lives next to me and was able to take me to the emergency room so I could feel better. 

So yes, family support is so so important! There are times that you might be PCSing to a different state and far away from family but I cannot express this enough: communicate and keep in touch with your family members! It will help with your insanity as well. 

God chose the strongest, the bravest, and the most courageous… and He made them military spouses.

There you have it, if you have found this information useful I encourage you to share it with others or even pin it on your Pinterest for future reference. You can follow some of my military-related Pinterest boards for more ideas.

May 1, 2021

Estou ensinando inglês online de graça!

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Como alguém que mora nos Estados Unidos há quase 20 anos, acho que meu inglês é muito bom. Pra ser sincera é melhor que meu português...

Enquanto pensava em ideias para meu Canal Brasileiro no Youtube, tive o que acho que é a melhor ideia: decidi ensinar inglês aos meus espectadores gratuitamente!

Tenho estado ocupada preparando minhas aulas e organizando tudo em meu escritório para dar-lhes a melhor aula que posso. Meu objetivo futuro é obter minha certificação para que eu seja ainda mais legítima. Mas, por enquanto, meus alunos podem confiar que tive experiências de vida e aulas de inglês suficientes na faculdade para ser qualificado para ensinar!

Vamos entrar em detalhes:

  • As aulas acontecerão todas as terças-feiras no meu canal
  • Haverá um tema diferente a cada semana
  • Será um inglês muito básico para começar
  • O plano é continuar com o aprendizado básico até que eu sinta que tudo está resolvido. Então, podemos passar para um nível intermediário e difícil.

No final, gostaria de ensinar individualmente, para poder me concentrar em um aluno e ajudá-lo o máximo que puder. Claro, vou continuar oferecendo aulas gratuitas no meu canal do youtube até que todos se cansem de mim :).

No momento, há duas classes no meu canal que você pode assistir: Saudações, Frutas e Cores

Obrigado por ler este post e se você tiver algum amigo ou família que possa ter interesse em aprender inglês mande-os aqui ou através do meu canal!

March 18, 2021

The perfect SLC, Utah Date Night Idea

Salt Lake City, UT, USA

As we head towards the end of this pandemic (fingers crossed) I’m sure you have been making lists of date night ideas for when all the places in Salt Lake City open up for dine-in or for in-person experiences... Well, guess what? Same!

My husband and I never got to celebrate our anniversary last year because we were right in the thick of it all... So we just sorta skipped it and decided to go on a fancy date when things started to open up. Around April 10th the governor announced that restaurants and other businesses were able to open for dine-in and some might not even require masks. 

The perfect SLC, Utah Date Night Idea:

In order to plan the perfect date night in Salt Lake City, you need to decide on a couple of things: main course, dessert, attractions, and attire. There are so many delicious restaurants downtown and it honestly depends on your price point for the whole night.

1. Pick your theme!

Do you want to dress up fancy? Do you want to dress down? More of a casual look? It’s up to you and your significant other! We opted for dressing up this evening because it had been a while since we got all dressed up for a fancy date.

couple at hale center theater
 9900 Monroe St, Sandy, UT 84070

2. Decide on your Restaurants 

Once again, Salt Lake City is full of amazing restaurants! You can go with places like HSL, Sappa, or really go all out and choose Ruth’s Chris! So we went with the latter and oh my lord! One of our favorites and the service is always amazing! 

 418 E 200 S, Salt Lake City, UT 84111

3. Decide on dessert!

One of my husbands and I favorite things is to eat delicious desserts. We love finding hidden gems and local favorites such as Gourmandise. This evening we decided to go with the Hatch Chocolate family. Which is a cute little shop up in the avenues famous for the little chocolatiers. PS: try their famous hot chocolate! You’re welcome ;) 

376 8th Ave, Salt Lake City, UT 84103

4. Explore the town!

Downtown is just beautiful! There are so many cultural things you can check out. If you are a religious person I highly recommend visiting the cathedrals. Just the stained glass art on the inside and the architecture craftsmanship. I’m always in awe when I enter this building. But I grew up catholic so I’m drawn to this type of architecture. My recommendation is to visit at least one old building downtown and learn a little bit more about its history. 

331 E S Temple, Salt Lake City, UT 84111

5. Go down memory lane...

One of my husbands and I favorite things to do is really go down memory lane when we are out on our date. We talk about songs that remind us of certain times our lives together (we usually end up listening to said songs) we also talk about goals and ambitions as well as look back at how much we’ve grown as individuals and as couples. 

What do you think? Are you inspired to go on a fun SLC date adventure?

February 28, 2021

The Promise Land | My journey to America

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Ah, every immigrant dream is: To come to the promised land. To live the American dream. Have a white picket fence. Go to college. Get a 9 to 5 job. Make money.  Become an American Citizen and be able to vote in the election. * Which are all things that I have personally been able to accomplish.

How do I fit into all of these things? well, I should start by telling you part one of my stories:

I was born in São Paulo, Brasil... Which is one of the biggest cities in Brazil. It constantly reminds me of New York City. The tall buildings. Businesses everywhere. Hard-working people. Subway Stations. Traffic. Taxis everywhere. A beautiful park in the middle of the city (much like Central Park). 

My childhood was amazing! My parents made sure of it. They were hardworking middle-upper class people who always-always made sure my sister and I had everything we needed. Ballet? Judo? Swimming? Gymnastics? You got it! We did it all and then some. My sister and I both attended a private school in our town and the experience as well as the memories we made in that school is was just everything. 

Utah Hogle Zoo - 1998

We traveled a lot. We had family all over Brasil so weekends were meant for beach trips or going down south to the countryside. One of my favorite memories was visiting my Italian great-great-grandma. She lived on this beautiful farm with every fruit tree you could think of. My cousins and I would climb up the apple trees and pick fresh apples. She lived in Minas Gerais which is a city known for its cheese. Great-great grandma Angelina had the longest most beautiful white hair that went down to her waist. She would stand on her porch and brush it out and smile at us! 

My grandparents were my everything!

From my mother’s side: grandma Lia (who I named my daughter after). She was the tiniest little thing. We would spend Sundays at her house and she would bake us the most delicious cakes and make the yummiest foods. My mom reminded me of something I had forgotten: my grandma Lia used to bake a cake every day of the week on Sundays. So that there was always cake for an afternoon tea or coffee time. I think that I get my passion for baking from her! Now, my grandpa, Gerald was this tall Italian guy with the most beautiful blue eyes. He was quiet but funny and guess what? He loved to work out just like we do! It was always so fun to visit with him and talk about weight lifting!

From my fathers' side: grandma Mada is where I get all my creative side from. She is an amazing artist, she crafts, she does yoga, and just always on the go! When my sister and I were little we took painting classes and when my grandma came up to visit us a few years back we took her to a painting class here. It was such a fun experience. She loved it! When she crafts she is resourceful and uses magazines and glue to completely up-cycled her furniture. My grandpa Giba is a man of little words. The sweetest guy! He is from the south of Brazil in Rio Grande Do Sul where they are known for this drink called chimarrão or mate as it is called in here. I distinctly remember drinking this with him when I was little.

So yeah, you could say that my life in Brazil was amazing and we didn’t have to leave the country to “get away” and to have a better life. My mama had just worked so hard giving us what we wanted and did an amazing job at keeping us humble because throughout my childhood I never ever bragged to anyone about having money and being better than them. Quite the contrary, I had friends from all walks of life.

When I was 10 years old my parents, sister, and I came up to the United States and spent a month doing all the tourist things you can think of. Our Aunt Fatima and uncle Gary lived up here in Utah at the time. We started in California by going to Disneyland, Universal Studios, San Diego. Then went through Zion National park, Camped at Capitol Reef, then went up to Utah and spent the 4th of July at a park watching fireworks and eating American Junk food. The rest of the month was spent shopping around (Park City) and eating at restaurants we had never heard of (sizzlers at the time) One of my favorites stops was the Hard Rock Cafe. 

After spending a month here we missed home and went back to our lives in Brazil, but as the years went by, moving to the USA was always on the back of my mom's mind. After all, two of her sisters lived here. My grandparents were constantly up here visiting so it made sense that we would eventually end up here. 

My mom is one of the hardest working women in know. Not only was she working a 9-5 at one of Brazil’s biggest banks (ITAÚ) as a business administrator, but she was also going to college full time at night to earn her bachelor's degree. To this day I still don’t know how she did it all and graduated with an A average! My sister and I used to make a list of snacks we were craving and put It on the fridge door. It was like magic because we would wake up the next day and all of our favorite things filled the fridge and pantry! 

Salt Lake City-2002

After my mom graduated college was when she decided to talk to my sister and me about moving to Utah and getting the whole school experience here. It was hard at first because we had so many friendships in Brazil that were going to miss. But I love the fact that we had the opportunity of trying something new. Even if it meant traveling to a foreign land and actually living there and not just doing tourist things.

Part 2 coming soon... 

February 15, 2021

My favorite Zero Waste - Earth Friendly products on Amazon in 2021

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It’s no surprise that I’m an advocate for saving our planet. You can read all about fast-fashion, and zero waste, and how I did a no-shopping challenge in my previous posts. Although I’m currently working on a list of small businesses that are doing their part in helping to save the earth and will publish it here soon, today's blog post is all about my favorite Amazon finds. 

My favorite Zero-Waste-Earth-Friendly products on Amazon in 2021

1.  Metal Straws 

Plastic straws are going to be the end of the ecosystem and marine wildlife. It contributes to polluting the ocean and its decomposing time is about 200 years. (can you believe that? 200 years!) No of us would be alive to see a decomposed straw so since we are all about making the difference here at Nina Talks I really think that you should switch to metal straws ASAP! Think about these factors next time you are questioning whether you should buy a metal straw or not: 

  • Convenient and can be used multiple times a day
  • easy to carry with you on the go
  • makes your beverage taste even better
  • and you know the whole "saving the earth-thing" 
Here are my favorite Metal Straws finds on Amazon: 

2. Books about going Zero Waste

It's no secret that knowledge is power, so when it comes to learning about going zero-waste, I highly recommend you check out different books on the subject. Reading as well as doing your own research on it besides what you find on the internet. There are a lot of books that I recommend and that is being added to my "to read" list: 


3. Reusable Bags: Grocery, produce, and ziplock

I would say that this is is one of the easiest switches yet a lot of people still have a hard time with it. Is it because grocery stores have conveniently put plastic produce bags everywhere and still use plastic bags at checkout? Or is it because even though they bought the reusable bags, they often forget them at home?

Did you know that plastic bags take about 500 years or more to decompose? Here are my favorite options for reusable bags:

4. Zero Waste Cleaning Products

One of my goals for 2021 is to go completely zero waste with my cleaning products. Out of all the "zero waste categories," this one seems to be the harder to make the switch. As a stay at home mom, I'm constantly cleaning my home. My three kiddos sure keep me busy in that department! There are a lot of zero waste brands out there, or you could even make your own cleaning products with things you can find at your local store. Its all about what you are comfortable doing. 

Here are few products that I found to help you out:

5. Zero Waste Beauty Products

Now this section could have it's own blog post because there is so much to talk about! Nowadays brands seem to be pushing towards the right direction when it comes to zero waste, raw beauty, human tested products and so on. Which I plan on highliting those brands very soon! For now, we are just going to go over some of the zero waste beauty finds on Amazon that will you help you make a difference:

I sure hope that you enjoyed this list of Zero Waste products I have found on Amazon. Remember, every little bit counts. Don't beat yourself up for not being perfect at Zero Waste because guess what? I'm not perfect either! If you are even researching this topic and finding ways to save the planet you are doing a great job. Keep at it! I'll leave you with this quote below: 

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