How to teach your son to be respectful at an early age

How to teach your son to be respectful at an early age

Respect is learned at an early age. This is respect for parents, peers, animals. The list can go on and on. We learn how to respect from our early years and it carries into adulthood. Teaching your son to be respectful of women may seem a little crazy when he’s just a toddler, but that will set the foundation for the rest of his life. If you can start early, his future girlfriends and eventually wife will be appreciative. 

Here are some things you can do to start the process very early on: 

Lead by example. 

If we show respect to our children, other adults and especially women, our sons will teach them the same behaviors. Show our sons that we do not talk bad about women, call them names and especially do not hit or threaten them. 

Speak kindly. 

Regardless of who you are talking to, speak kindly. Use please and thank you. Try to stay away from using negative words like shut up or the like. 

Talk about disrespect. 

If you see a man on TV being disrespectful to a woman, talk about it. This could be the same if you see someone in a public place. Talk to your son and ask him what he thinks. Ask him how he thinks the woman feels in his situation. It is also a good idea to ask him if he thinks it would be okay for a man to treat his mom/sister in this manner. 

Offer help. 

Teach your son at an early age that if sees someone, especially a woman that needs help to go and offer help. This goes back to helping an elder cross the road but can be as simple as assisting someone that has dropped something or even smiling at someone that looks like they are having a bad day. 

Monitor internet usage. 

With today's technology takeover (aka Youtube) this is usually a given to watch what your kids are doing on the internet, but think about this...most boys are exposed to pornography by the age of 11. This isn’t the same as the old school Playboy magazines. This is hardcore, sometimes violent acts against women. This is a good topic to discuss at an early age. Let them know that this does exist but that it isn’t real life. Explain how healthy relationships are structured and what should be expected.

Don’t allow sexism. 

It may seem like a joke to say “get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich” but these types of jokes can be harmful. If you hear your son make a joke about “women drivers” or other sexist comments, call them out on it. Ensure you set your son straight in regards to how he should talk to and about women.    

We hope that if you have a son, and have been researching on this specific topic online, today's blog post has helped you in some way. Don't forget to leave your questions in the comments!

xo,

Karina

50 songs for sexy time!

“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.” ~Alain de Boston

Here is a Sexy Time Play List to get you and your partner in the mood:

1.  “No Diggity” by Blackstreet featuring Dr. Dre

2.  Ride” by Ciara feat. Ludacris

3.  “Earned It” by The Weeknd

4.  “Lost Without U” by Robin Thicke

5.  Sexual Healing by Marvin Gay

6.  “Good For You” by Selena Gomez feat. A$AP Rocky

7.  You’re Makin’ Me High” by Toni Braxton

8.  Bed by J. Holiday

9.  "Strip It Down," Luke Bryan

10.   "Thinking About You," Frank Ocean

11.   "Slow Motion" by Trey Songz

12.   "Come a Little Closer," Dierks Bentley

13.   "Wicked Games" by The Weeknd

14.   If you can't say no By Lenny Kravitz

15.   Let Me Love You By Ariana Grande, Little Wayne

16.   Needed Me By Rihanna

17.   Often By The Weekend

18.   You Shook Me by Led Zeppelin

19.   Bloodstream by Stateless

20.   The Jack by AC/DC

21.   Do I Wanna Know? ARTIC

22.   "Best I Ever Had," Drake

23.   "I Don't Want This Night to End," Luke Bryan

24.   "Need You Now," Lady Antebellum

25.   "F*** You All The Time (Shlomo Remix)" by Jeremih

26.   "Let's Get it on" by Marvin Gaye

27.   "Amazed," Lonestar

28.   "Speakers," Sam Hunt

29.   "Wicked Games" by Chris Isaak

30.   Buttons by The Pussycat Dolls Featuring Snoop Dogg

31.   Love Me Like You Do by Ellie Goulding

32.   "Let's Stay Together," Al Green

33.   "Some Kind of Drug" by G-Eazy

34.   Drunk In Love by Beyonce

35.   "Nirvana" Sam Smith

36.   "Let's Spend the Night Together" by The Rolling Stones

37.   Touch My Body by Mariah Carey

38.   "Fade Into You" Mazzy Star

39.   "Rehab" Rihanna

40.   "Shut It Down" by Drake featuring The-Dream

41.   Birthday Sex by Jeremih

42.   "Climax" by Usher

43.   "Trumpets" by Jason DeRulo

44.   "Bump n' Grind" by R. Kelly

45.   "In the Morning" by J. Cole

46.   "Turn Your Lights Down Low" by Bob Marley & Lauryn Hill

47.   "Pony" by Ginuwine

48.   “Talk Is Cheap” by Chet Faker

49.   “Gravity” by John Mayer

50.   “I Put A Spell On You” by Annie Lennox 

How to play 20 QUESTIONS with your partner

This short story is taken from my self-published dating book... I've decided to add parts of the book to my blog so that you'll get to enjoy reading all my fun stories!

“Dating is about finding who you are, and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.” ~Henry Cloud

One of my favorites “ice breaker” games is called 20 Questions. Especially when you are still getting to know each other. I can assure you that I played this game with every single guy I dated. It is a texting game, so it is perfect for you to play after a long day and you’re just laying in bed relaxing. The purpose of this game is to get to know your partner by asking questions you might be too shy or afraid to ask face-to-face. There are different ways to play this game, but I decided to create my own version and it goes like this:

You each think of 20 questions, then you take turns texting each person the question. The opponent can also answer the question being asked (this makes it extra fun). This game can either be very PG13 or rated R. It’s up to you and your date. It’s all about how comfortable you are with each other. Fun right? Okay, so I decided to come up with a list of questions that you should ask your partner. It will start out easy then get steamy as we go down the list. You decide the order you want to go! Don’t be shy!

1. What is your favorite TV Show?

2. What is your favorite Food?

3. If you could spend one day in someone else’s shoes, who would it be and why?

4. If you had to describe yourself only using three words what would it be?

5. If you could be an expert at anything, what would it be?

6. What did you think was silly until you tried it?

7. Who is your favorite author?

8. Do you have a Bucket List? Name one thing on it!

9.  If you could teleport anywhere in the world right now where would it be?

10. What’s the most ridiculous fact you know?

11. What are your views on Marriage? Kids?

12.  What is the craziest place you’ve had sex at?

13.  What is your biggest fantasy?

14. Do you like dirty talk?

15. What is your favorite position?

16. Do you prefer to cuddle or make out?

17.  What is your favorite place to be touched?

18. What is your biggest turn on?

19.  What do you think is attractive about me?

20. Have you ever had a friend with benefits?

Honestly, this list could go on and on. I just want you to get your imagination going. Think of questions you have always wanted to ask someone then ask away. I promise you this game will keep you and your partner entertained and guess what? When you meet face-to-face again there will be fireworks!

Tips from a content creator - lauryncakes

Here is the thing, up until now I have interviewed several people for my podcast show. Every single one of them brings me a new perspective. Their passions, hopes, and dreams ignite the fire in me. I leave every studio session inspired and ready to take on the World! Today's guest was no different.

Lauryn took a chance on me. She was one of the first people I reached out to while in the process of re-launching the Nina Talks Podcast. I remember sitting on my phone one-night scrolling through Instagram and thinking: 

"Who will take me seriously? This is a completely new direction and I don't have a lot of work to show for it. I'm going into it blind with just my words as well as hopes for the future."

I scroll past @lauryncakes on Instagram and add her to my list of "must haves" for the podcast. I have followed Lauryn long enough to know how much of a badass she is and that she is also kind, knowledgable in her craft, and just puts out so much positivity that I thought to myself: My listeners will LOVE her!

So I slid into her DM's I fangirled big time and went about my day... I honestly wasn't expecting her to respond to me right away because she is such a big influencer that probably gets many messages a day, but much to my surprise she responded and was all in! I had to take a double take because someone that I look up to was actually coming on my little show and was going to give my listeners her tips? what? I immediately froze and was elated with joy! 

Here are some of my favorite blog posts from Lauryn's blog: How to get invited to Events

10 ways to use double sided fashion tape & How to maintain an active lifestyle when you are busy

Now onto today's episode: 

Until next Tuesday, 

XO

Nina 

RAINBOW CHIA PUDDING RECIPE

                                                                   RAINBOW CHIA PUDDING

Talk about a colorful and happy way to start the day!  Who wouldn't have a smile on their face when this was in front of them.  These pudding cups make a fabulous breakfast, or snack, and young and old alike will appreciate the colors and flavors of this really pretty, really healthy pudding.  This should make even the picky eaters happy.  Try it and see, you're going to love this.

Chia seeds are an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids, rich in antioxidants, and they provide fiber, iron, and calcium. Omega-3 fatty acids help raise HDL cholesterol, the "good" cholesterol that protects against heart attack and stroke.

HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED:

1 pint of fresh ripe Strawberries
1 16 ounces can of organic mandarin oranges
2 large Kiwi's
1 pint of fresh blueberries
2 Tablespoons of Matcha powder
2 cups of Chia seeds
4 cups of Soy milk (you can use almond or whole milk if preferred)
Stevia
Honey
8 - 10 small glass containers (or containers of your choice)

HERE'S WHAT YOU DO:

In a medium bowl, mix the Chia seeds with the milk, and a Tablespoon of honey, cover and place in the refrigerator (NOTE - if the Chia pudding is too thick, add a little more Milk to thin). 

Wash the strawberries, remove the stems, and slice them into a bowl, reserving the juice in the bowl as you slice.  Sprinkle with 2 teaspoons of Stevia, cover and set aside. Rinse the Kiwi's, dry with a paper towel, and slice the Kiwi's into a bowl, and set aside. Wash the Blueberries, and place on paper towels to dry.   Assemble the cups of pudding:  Remove the pudding from the refrigerator, and add a couple of Tablespoons to the bottom of the containers.  Spoon the strawberry juice evenly into the cups, over the pudding, and stir to make the pudding pink. Place three or four slices of strawberries on top of the pudding.  In a small dish, add about 1 cup of pudding and place half of the Mandarin oranges in the bowl, along with the juice from the can.  Smash the oranges into the pudding, which will turn the pudding a light orange color. Place even amounts of the pudding and mashed oranges into the containers, and top evenly with the remaining oranges.  In a small bowl, place 1 - 2 cups of the Chia pudding, and several slices of the Kiwi, and mash them into the pudding.  Add the Matcha powder, and mix well, turning the pudding green.  Place the pudding evenly in the containers, on top of the orange layer, and place remaining Kiwi - chopped, evenly in containers on top of the green layer of pudding.  Place half of the blueberries in the remaining pudding, and mash them into the pudding, creating the blue/purple color for the final layer of the pudding cup.  Place the blue/purple pudding evenly in the containers, and top with remaining blueberries.  Drizzle with honey, and serve.  Enjoy!

NOTE:  We used 6 - 8-ounce containers for the pudding cups.  Depending on the size of your containers, you may want to divide the pudding evenly into separate bowls before you add the fruits, and juices to make sure the same amount is mixed.  If you find you'll need more pudding, simply make 3 cups of Chia seeds, with 6 cups of milk, and 2 Tablespoons of Honey.   You will need larger quantities of fruit, and juices to color the pudding, but you can adjust accordingly, as you make the pudding layers.  If you want a brighter color, simply add more mashed fruit and fruit juice to the pudding.  You can also add natural food coloring found at your local health food store if you prefer really bright colors.  If you prefer, you can mix the pudding and the fruits to be mashed along with the fruit juice in a blender or food processor, instead of mashing the pudding/fruit by hand.

Makes approximately  8 - 10 six to eight-ounce servings. Larger containers will make 6 - 8 pudding cups, smaller containers will make 10 - 12 pudding cups.

Don't forget that fruit is natures candy and you should be enjoying it daily!

xo, 

Nina